A few days back, my wife posed a rhetorical question. She asked why it was necessary for girls to leave their homes after marriage and enter the homes of their in-laws, while the same was not explicitly required of the men they married. Considering the readership of this site is predominantly in the U.S., this may sound like a bit of an odd question, but it makes sense within the context of the pervading "old-fashioned" culture of India. It is actually an in-built component of the definition of marriage over their, even if "entering" someone else's home is more of a paper entry. It's something that even as the younger generation are starting to become more and more Westernized (at least in the urban parts of the country), and 99 out of every 100 Bollywood films espouses idealistic love-conquers-all romance that flies in the face of outdated parochial cultural attitudes about marriage and raising children... and yet these tinges remain.
It's a bit funny when I hear the anti-gay crowd here in the U.S. talk about preserving "traditional marriage", and I think back to how we define that in India. Really, the "traditional marriage" in India is closer to that which marriage actually was in ancient times. It wasn't originally a union between lovers; it was a union between tribes, where young able-bodied humans (where able-bodied for a man meant he could fight well enough to kill your enemies and able-bodied for a woman meant she was hot enough to bed frequently) were the units of trade to cement contracts. This is still reflected in India today where the culture views "marriage" as "marrying an entire family" rather than something between two people. The local community including neighbors and distant relatives you've probably never met and friends, family doctors, and lawyers all expressing some vested interest in the success of someone's marriage, regardless of whether it really has anything to do with them or not. Even to this day, we have a tendency to use the word "alliance" rather than fiance/fiancee.
It's a bit funny when I hear the anti-gay crowd here in the U.S. talk about preserving "traditional marriage", and I think back to how we define that in India. Really, the "traditional marriage" in India is closer to that which marriage actually was in ancient times. It wasn't originally a union between lovers; it was a union between tribes, where young able-bodied humans (where able-bodied for a man meant he could fight well enough to kill your enemies and able-bodied for a woman meant she was hot enough to bed frequently) were the units of trade to cement contracts. This is still reflected in India today where the culture views "marriage" as "marrying an entire family" rather than something between two people. The local community including neighbors and distant relatives you've probably never met and friends, family doctors, and lawyers all expressing some vested interest in the success of someone's marriage, regardless of whether it really has anything to do with them or not. Even to this day, we have a tendency to use the word "alliance" rather than fiance/fiancee.